Start banker conversations twelve to eighteen months before you intend to sell, build a shortlist from closed transactions in your size band and vertical rather than from brand names, interview the people who will actually run your deal, negotiate the engagement letter's fee, tail, term and carve-outs with counsel before you sign, agree the process design in writing, and then run the relationship on a fixed weekly cadence.
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The banker you hire is not the banker who pitched you. The senior partner with the tombstones and the great stories runs the pitch meeting; a vice president and an analyst run your deal. Most founders select on the partner and live with the associate for nine months. The single most useful question in the whole selection is who, by name, will write the CIM, call the buyers and sit next to you in the management presentations, and how many other live deals those people are carrying this quarter.
The second thing founders get wrong is timing. They call bankers when they have decided to sell, which means the selection happens in three weeks under pressure and the first real conversation about valuation is a pitch. Bankers pitch high to win the mandate. That number becomes an anchor in your head, and it is the most expensive anchor you will carry into the process, because every real offer is measured against it and every one feels like a loss.
Start twelve to eighteen months out. Talk to four or five firms informally, share your numbers, and ask each what the company would need to look like to be an easy deal for them. The ones who tell you something you did not want to hear are the ones worth keeping on the list.
The goal: A banker chosen on evidence — transactions closed in your band, the named team who will do the work, their real buyer relationships — under an engagement letter you negotiated with counsel, with the process design agreed in writing and a weekly cadence running from the day you sign.
What a banker actually does. A good sell-side banker does four things you cannot do yourself: builds and works a buyer list you do not have access to, writes the materials that position the company, runs a process that creates competition and deadlines, and stands between you and the buyer in the negotiation so that you can remain the person the buyer will work for afterward. The fee pays for the competition. A process with one buyer is a negotiation, and you can hire a good M&A lawyer for that. And a banker is not a finder. Anyone who offers to introduce you to "a few buyers" for a fee, without running a process or standing behind the materials, is selling your own contacts back to you.
How bankers are paid. Terms vary widely by deal size and firm, so treat these as the shape rather than the price.
Process design. The banker will recommend one of three shapes. A broad auction contacts a large list of strategics and sponsors, maximizes tension, and maximizes the number of people who know you are for sale. A targeted process goes to a curated list of perhaps twenty to forty buyers who fit, and trades a little tension for confidentiality and speed. A negotiated sale works one to three buyers who have already shown interest. Strategic buyers pay for the past and the future and usually fit vertical SaaS best, but they are slower, because a champion has to sell the deal internally to a board. Financial buyers pay for the past, move faster to an LOI because fund deadlines and return models drive them, and close faster. The right design follows from the buyer archetype in your Meaningful Exit Plan, not from the banker's habit.
A strategic has already approached us, so why pay a banker? Because one buyer is not a process, and the buyer knows it. Without an alternative you are negotiating against your own impatience. If you are confident in the buyer, hire a banker on a reduced fee to run a short, targeted check of five or six alternatives, or hire experienced M&A counsel for a negotiated deal. Either way, carve the approaching buyer out of the full fee in the engagement letter.
The big-name bank wants the mandate, and the name will impress buyers. Buyers are impressed by competition, not by letterhead. Ask the big-name bank who will run your deal and how many deals below their usual size they closed last year. If the answer is a junior team and not many, the smaller specialist who closes your size every quarter will work harder and know more of the right buyers.
The banker wants a large retainer. A retainer is reasonable; an uncredited one is not. Pay it, credit it against the success fee, and cap it. If a banker needs a large uncredited retainer to take the mandate, they are telling you how much they believe in the deal.
We picked a banker and three months in the process is going nowhere. Look at the weekly log. If buyer contacts are thin and the named team has changed, raise it directly and in writing. If it does not change within a month, use the termination right you negotiated, and be glad you limited the tail to buyers actually contacted.
Open informal conversations twelve to eighteen months before your target go-to-market date. Share your financials under NDA and ask each banker the same question: what would make this company an easy deal for you in a year? Take notes on what each one tells you to fix, and compare the lists.
Build the long list from closed transactions, not reputations. Pull every disclosed sale of a vertical software company in your size band and adjacent verticals over the last three to five years and note which firm advised the seller. Ask your board, your investors, your lawyer and founders who have sold for the names of bankers they would hire again and the ones they would not.
Cut to three or four and interview each one properly. Two hours, with the CFO and one board member in the room, and insist the people who will work the deal attend. Ask: Who, by name, will do the work day to day, and how many live mandates are they running?
Retainer. A monthly or upfront fee, commonly credited against the success fee at close. It keeps the banker committed and it is the fee you pay if the deal dies.
Tail. The period after the engagement ends during which a deal with a buyer the banker introduced still earns the fee. Twelve months is reasonable; longer is a negotiation.
Process design. The banker will recommend one of three shapes. A broad auction contacts a large list of strategics and sponsors, maximizes tension, and maximizes the number of people who know you are for sale.
A strategic has already approached us, so why pay a banker? Because one buyer is not a process, and the buyer knows it. Without an alternative you are negotiating against your own impatience.